Saturday, January 3, 2009

In response....

This comment was left about post on being nice...and to be honest it does have some valid points, so this is my response to Anonymous

Anonymous said...

never judge people for what they say... It's never an ultimate basis. In fact it's very shallow to consider that... You have a lifetime to prove a person's character.

Some say what they never mean... words are just words. it can be a lie... it is always influenced by hatred or whatever emotion...we must consider that.

We can't please everyone. One may seem nice but never as genuine as a person whose words hurt.

I agree that honest words can hurt, and that you can't please everyone. And yet I also believe that a person's character is evident in what they say and how they say it. A kind person IS just as genuine as the person who uses harsh truth to make a point. I also understand that there are times when the topics get heated and people get carried away with the emotion of the subject at hand.

I've met some of those people that are "too" nice. Maybe they are genuine, but when I hit my finger with the hammer, you are going to hear things that aren't very pleasant, not a quiet "Oh dear, that doesn't feel good". I've also met those people that are just blunt. They just call it as they see it. They do say "You are wrong" but they don't say "You are wrong, you lying piece of garbage" over and over and over. And then there are those that just "go along" with the crowd instead of voicing their own feelings, or tell you what they think you want to hear.

However, when making an online purchase, I don't have a lifetime to judge the character of the seller. I have pictures, feedback and the seller's words in the forums to make a decision whether I want to buy an item. If I see them over and over in the forums "behaving" badly, it's not just a one time thing. I may miss out on some beautiful items, but at least I won't end up with too many items that have lost their beauty because of nasty words and attitudes.


  1. You are right Deronda. Your gut will tell you the truth every time. Whether you have known them a lifetime or for only a few minutes.

  2. I was taught to think before talking...the same goes for writing, don't you agree? I never write anything in public forums that may be hurtful to anyone reading it. It's just common sense.