Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Are you a nice person?

I love making beads. I love the sound of the torch, the feel of the heat from the flame, the dance with the glass as it moves and sways with the music only I hear in my soul.

On the journey of learning about glass, I have "met" others who understand the passion of playing with fire. And while there are those that understand the passion of the glass, some of them have not learned the art of civility. Everyone has the right to an opinion and everyone has the right to stand up for what they believe is right. And I suppose they even have the right to do it a manner that is intentionally cruel and meant to destroy.

I made an online purchase not so long ago. It was a handmade item that I was going to use as a gift. By the time the package came to my house, I had read some of the words posted in a public forum by the creator. The package sits unopened...the ugliness of the words and attitude echo in my mind.

Just remember...the words you say, the words you write make up your presence online. No matter how beautiful your creations may be, if your words are ugly, I am going to move on to the next shop. And if asked, I will not recommend your creations no matter how "perfect" they may be.


  1. I agree wholeheartedly Deronda!! And an ugly word said by someone sticks in our minds so much easier than a kind word. As we dip our toes into the lampwork community we'll come to know others by their words and actions as well as their creations. It's not just what you make that is your business, it is who you are and how you conduct yourself.

  2. So true...ugly words are always remembered! I also think that the energies, that one possess is transferred into their creations, so ugly words equal negative energy into that object...not good! How unfortunate that you did not see the real character of the person before you bought.

  3. :) I agree Deronda - and if I have ever offended you with my comments on the forums, I do apologize. Sometimes hot topics can get the better of all of us. Happy New Year!

  4. Exactly! I am a member of a few local forums/networks, and I am regularly astounded by the mean words of some people. Puts me off their products immediately!

  5. You are so right.
    I have the same feelings.
    It's like the bad spirit keeps echoing.

    Happy new year!!!

    May many dreams come true.

  6. Deronda, I occasionally visit the Etsy forums and have been SO surprised and turned off at how nasty some people can be. On the other hand I have went out of my way to buy from someone with a positive attitude and nice things to say. I wish you could return your item :(

    Renee :)

  7. Can you send the package back, I wonder? That's a bummer! You are right. In forums people think that their words cannot hunt them. Being hurtful is not okay.

    Happy New Year!!

  8. What a wonderful reminder, you drew me in with your magical passion for beads and yet kept me with your sage advice.

    Thank you for reminding me that words hurt not just others but yourself.

  9. Thanks for letting me know I am not alone. People can disagree without being disrespectful and hurtful, don't you think?

  10. psssst. . . I made the chocolate rule negotiable. ((grin))


  11. never judge people for what they say... It's never an ultimate basis. In fact it's very shallow to consider that... You have a lifetime to prove a person's character.

    Some say what they never mean... words are just words. it can be a lie... it is always influenced by hatred or whatever emotion...we must consider that.

    We can't please everyone. One may seem nice but never as genuine as a person whose words hurt.